Queerplatonic
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Adjective describing a relationship which is more intense and intimate than is considered common or normal for a [friendship], but doesnt fit the traditional sexual-romantic couple model. It is characterized by a strong bond, love, and emotional commitment, yet is not perceived by those involved as romantic. The relationship may or may not have some elements or degree of sexuality/eroticism at various times, or none - it doesnt matter, because sexuality/sexual exclusivity is not what the relationship is organized around. Its defined by the intensity and significance of the emotional connection.
The people involved do not have to identify as [queer], its a type of relationship experienced by and available to anybody regardless of their [sexual orientation], [romantic orientation], or (non-)monogamy. The people involved in a queerplatonic relationship may consider themselves partners, life-partners, a couple, a triad, or any other term that implies the relationship is meaningful, committed and intimate.
Quuerplatonic parters or QPs are sometimes referred to as zucchini. As in, hes my zucchini. This was originally a joke within the [asexual]/[aromantic] community, underscoring the lack of words in mainstream relationship discourse to signify meaningful relationships that do not follow the standard and expected sexual/romantic norms, and frustration with the erasure of other kinds of intimacy, which were perceived as equally valuable to the sexual/romantic model.
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